For most children the transition to senior school will be a smooth one. They will feel excited, not overly anxious, and they will relish the independence and responsibility that senior schools expect from their pupils. The transition will be carefully managed by professionals who have done it many times before and know how to help children settle quickly.
It is an exciting time for them but where does it leave us as parents? How does our role need to change? It can come as a bit of a shock to discover that when our children move on to senior school they would really rather we did not move with them. School becomes their space. It can be hard not to feel rejected but we must recognise that they are doing exactly what they should be doing. They are growing up and they need to become increasingly independent of us, after all, it is only another five or seven years until they have to be ready to leave our nests and go it alone.
This is the time to give them the space to take more and more responsibility for themselves, their studies and their possessions. When we are over controlling and over protective we give them the message that we don’t think they are capable which won’t do a lot for their self confidence and self esteem.
Instead view their first year in senior school as the perfect time to let them take control and make some mistakes – teenagers are a work in progress and they will get it wrong from time to time – this does not make you a bad parent! By all means set them up for success but try not to rescue them when things don’t go according to plan.
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